We live in a time when perfection is valued most, and this makes us believe that by doing things
in a perfect way we can achieve happiness and success. Even though, there is a strong
connection between perfectionism and depression. The purpose of this research is to survey
the “perfectionism” phenomenon nowadays. How this phenomenon has impacted our life. We
will see that perfectionism might also be genetic. This research may help you understand that
it is okay not to be perfect, and it is okay to make mistakes.
“Perfectionism is a trait that causes us to find comfort in order.” In the moment that it is
overused as a way of dealing with stress and anxiety, it may have consequences. The need to
“get it right” leads the perfectionists in being conflictual with relationships, not only with others
but also with their self. They usually tend to hide who they really are, because they are afraid
that in a specific moment may look irrational or incapable.
We are all aware that perfectionism is being promoted every day, everywhere starting from
advertisements, magazines, social media and also by our own parents. The idea of having the
perfect body or the perfect clothes is inevitable. Of course, these high standards make us feel
completed and it is not wrong to aim for the excellence in life. Perfectionism has very good
aspects because many achievements have come from perfectionists. But the aim of my report
is to focus on the negative sides of perfectionism, not because I don’t value perfectionism, but
because I see it having a destructive effect in people’s lives.
The main problem is when a person’s self worth depends on the need to reach those high standards.
And this leads on to all sorts of other psychopathology of extreme anxiety states, depression, phobias,
and so on.
All or nothing, black or white thinking.
People think that they must do everything right or not at all. So, it is nothing in the middle. You
may become a great success or a huge failure.
An intolerance of ambiguity.
This is a problem of living in tension or in balance with the two sides of life, success and failure.
The perfectionist will often feel entirely responsible for something or reject all responsibility
The shoulds and oughts in life
The perfectionists are especially driven by guilt and shame produced by a critical parent looking over a
shoulder, the concern about what others will think, or what we think our parents will think of what we
Procrastination and indecision
Paul Tillich in his book, ‘The Courage to Be’ puts it this way “there is an anxiety of becoming guilty, the
horror of feeling condemned”.
Fear of rejection.
Perfectionists people expect a lot of themselves and others . So, they are evidently upset. Here comes the criticism. The devastating need is to keep things under
Making comparisons with others
Comparing yourself to those who seem “better than me” is a dangerous habit.
Lack of support combined with a desire to isolate
Perfectionists are afraid of being found out as hypocrites. Criticism is expected and they do anything to avoid it.
Keeping secrets about fears and mistakes
The person I appear to be and who I really am have nothing in common.
Can perfectionism lead to suicide?
Perfectionism is related to suicide. According to the World Health Organization suicides take a lifetime
every 45 seconds . A new study has discovered that personality components play an active role that leads
Some interviews made by researchers at Western Ontario University to the relatives of people who
decided to commit suicide resulted that 56% of people “a perceived external pressure to be perfect.”
How does the perfectionism impact in work?
Perfectionism also causes problems at work, making them obsessed to push things until it’s too late. This
is because these people do not even accept to seek help, as they call it their weaknesses. Thus, scholars
say that to a certain extent, perfectionism is healthy, but overcoming causes a lot of damage, especially